So, just thinking about friends. Pastor Matt gave a message on friendships @ Cross Current this past Saturday.
As I was thinking and considering some things about friendships, I was really…well, some things were really brought to my attention. Some specific things that stuck with me were….
*Friendships are ultimately about God. The foundation of EVERY friendship (or companionship) needs to be God. @ Caregroup this week, we talked again about friendships. We did a lil example with 2 X 4’s. And when they were laid on the rug, it was harder to walk across then when they were laid on top of one another (a hard surface that wouldn’t move), it was MUCH easier to walk across. And so when my friendships are built on shaky, moving grounds, the chances of them being beneficial to me are slim.
*Who you travel with, you WILL become like. I love to say that that’s not true and deny it with everything in me, but I cant any longer. I have written in my notes these words: STOP DENYING. in nice, big letters. I CAN’T deny that any longer. Who I am with, I WILL become like.
*My friends (gifts) should point me to the God (giver). I thought that was a cool lil thing to remember.
*It’s a slow, gradual change, and it starts with your feelings. That’s SO true….
*Do I love my friends enough that I would speak truth into their lives and reject their influence (assuming it’s negative)?
*Then the tables were turned and he said “Now, when I asked you to evaluate the affect your friends have on YOU, do you realize YOU were being evaluated?” And I was kinda like “uh, oh…wow” and I was wondering what things were thought. Am I a good influence? Do I really stick to my convictions, swaying for nothing? Many questions of the like ran through my mind. I def know i can be a better friend and want to stive towards that.
*Afterwards, when I was thinking about the msg, I was wondering WHY I don’t see the affect me (negatively. If it’s positive, I tend to notice it and all). And i know why (it’s SO simple!!) it’s because I don’t sit down regularly and think about my friendships and the influences and the changes in my character, conduct and everything. So I plan to do that way more often!
*And one lil quote: “if my friends aren’t friends of God, they shouldnt be my friends”